2020: How to Succeed, and 8 Things to Let Go Of.
Updated: Jan 31
Happy New Year #sweetharts!
2020 has arrived and man is it going to be a great year! I've decided to name this the "Year of Clear Vision", based on 20/20 being perfect eyesight. Having a clear path and view ahead of you is imperative to setting yourself up for success.
However, to set ourselves up for the greatest achievements, we need to recycle and rid ourselves of our environmental pollution (emotional, relational, friendships, etc.) that has held us down. The following are 8 situations and scenarios that you may need to say good-bye to, to invite in positive things!
1. Complaining about your job.
To complain seems to be part of human nature. However, complaining remains one of the strongest mental urges that exists across the globe.
However, complaining is bad for your mental wellbeing, productivity, and is easily contagious. Especially complaining about your job.
Let’s start from the premise of complaining: a certain problem fills you with the feeling of frustration. This mental tension is resolved when you make a verbal complaint. We can then say that complaining is a sort of relief for our stressed minds.
Where is a source of constant frustration and tension? Our jobs, most likely. This is where we spend our days and deal with co-workers, public, and bosses.
Some people keep complaining about their jobs without changing anything. When you do this, you simply perpetuate the stress and frustration. As a result, complaining doesn’t let off some emotional steam but it increases the pressure of your mind.
2. Comparing yourself to others.
For starters, every person is a separate individual with his or her specific preferences.
If you compare someone from a standard template, only some of them will fit into them. Those who think outside the box and those who aren’t interested in the given topic won’t be able to fit into that mold.
The same goes for other business-entrepreneurs, other women, other men, other people.
We all have different mindsets and social backgrounds. That’s why we should compare ourselves only with our individual goals, preferences, and desires.
Compare yourself to yourself, and grow from this. Seek inspiration from others, and do not compare yourself to them. Each person's story is unique and yours will unfold if you let it.
3. Not setting specific goals.
Every person needs to set personal and/or professional goals.
If you just do your job without any specific goals, you won’t have a momentum behind you that will push you forward. What’s more, your progress will be much slower if you don’t have one or more milestones before you.
If you just coast through life without goals, you won't have the gumption to get fit, buy that house, start that relationship, go on that trip!
Instead, set your goals by choose several different intervals for them. You can set your short-term, mid-term, and long-term goals. They can refer both to your finances, your professional skills, and your personal life. The more time you spend planning, the more likely you are to make reachable and realistic goals.
Also, successful people make plans on a daily and weekly level. That’s how they cope with their everyday tasks more efficiently.
4. Burning your old bridges.
We’ve already discussed that constant complaining can intensify the feeling of frustration. People who feel frustrated are more likely to burn their old bridges once something better or someone better comes along.
In the long run, this is a negative characteristic that constructive people should try to change.
Remain polite and friendly until the end of your stint in that partnership, job, friendship. You can never tell what the future brings. Perhaps you and your formers friends, peers, colleagues will benefit from one another in the future.
What goes around comes around. What my mama used to always say, "Come out smelling like a rose." Meaning, always leave a situation looking like the bigger person, be the bigger person, and stay polite and friendly.
5. Underestimating your value.
There's been a rapid switch in most-wanted jobs, and the value of university and post-secondary education. Even if you are not using your diploma or degree, they are still useful!
It’s good to know that this world still needs other professions, as well. That’s why you should respect your education, as well as your working skills. We still need craftspeople, teachers, doctors, hairdressers, plumbers, and many other occupations.
Therefore, be proud of your job. Be proud of what you do. If the labor market is saturated with your profession, think about offering your services in a different package.
Simply put, the road before those who decide to fine-tune or expand their existing skills is much shorter than the path in front of those who start it all over again.
6. Wasting your downtime.
You probably have one or more breaks during the workday and during the evening. It’s scientifically proven that breaks are beneficial to your productivity.
When you unplug from your parenting/working mode, you give your mind some time to think divergently and that way relax from arduous, focused mental efforts.
But if you waste your downtime on reading trivial news or browsing through social media posts, you’ll neither relax nor refresh your mind.
So, when you’re taking a break, try to do something more useful. Reading a few pages of a book, learning a few words of a new language or listening to relaxing music with your eyes closed are just some of the possible activities.
Never miss a chance to learn something new. Podcasts that you can immerse yourself in even while you’re doing something else, can help you pick up a lot of amazing tricks and her new ideas.
The more energy you regain during these breaks or downtime, the higher your potential energy for the rest of the day will be.
7. Overeating in the evening or after work.
Many modern people refuse to eat at work or school because they think that it will slow down their work and studying efficiency. Truth be told, it’s not easy to work fast when you’ve just eaten a three-course meal.
Skipping lunch and meals is both unhealthy and counterproductive. People who don’t want to have lunch at work increase the risk of becoming sick. Such behaviour can cost a person more in the long run in days off and lowered immunity.
Another negative consequence of skipping meals is overeating after a long day. When put in this situation, people eat everything they put their eyes on when they come back home. To top it all off, they usually take a nap after such a hearty meal.
None of these habits is beneficial for your productivity and your success.
Remember that you need to eat cooked, healthy food, and have three regular meals every day. That way, you’ll stay mentally and physically fit for decades, which will lead to higher efficiency and commitment to your goals.
8. Binge-watching TV and Movies
In the last few years, there has been an increase in the craze of binge-watching. People of all generations, walks of life, and backgrounds binge-watch different content via websites and streaming services.
While this can be an exciting weekend activity, the latest scientific research has shown that bingers might be more anxious and exhausted, as well as less concentrated. Even if you leave these marathons of TV shows for weekends, you might not fully recover for the upcoming week.
People who like to binge-watch TV shows spend less time outside. If you sit long hours during the week and stay indoors at the weekend as well, your mind won’t get enough necessary fresh air and energy to recuperate.
So, if you want to make your performances more efficient in 2020, we strongly recommend that you get back to the traditional rhythm – one episode per night.
A good old proverb says "No pain, no gain." If you want to become a successful professional or business owner, a successful student, youtuber, parent, person - it’s crucial to be disciplined and focused. With constant distractions of online and offline stimuli all the time, this has to change if you want to commit yourself to your goals. Your person. Your self.
9. BONUS: Guard your self-care time.
There is a newer trend in the online community of people posting about bath bombs, baths, gym memes, and such regarding #selfcare. While this is fantastic, this is not the only way to have self care.
Most people feel guilty when they have to take time and carve out time to be alone with themselves. Please do not! It is imperative to allow you to release your stress, your anxiety, your worries.
Remember that self-care looks different for every person. It can be simply reading a book, sitting in silence, walking outside for 10 minutes, singing aloud in the car, baths, gym, knitting, playing with children or pets, and so much more.
How do you find yourself improving for 2020? Let us know your favourite #selfcaretips!